On the pursuit of happiness I constantly juggle between my own happiness and the happiness of others around me. Ironically I also want others to make me happy. Why? Come on I also have expectations!
And when expectations don’t match all remain unhappy. In a stiff moment I tend to forget that I am responsible for own happiness instead I start to play the blame game. It’s easy right!
Where does love go then? To the drains…
Instead of expecting someone( spouse, friend, family) to solve my problem I should just say ” look this is my problem, you don’t have to fix it for me. Just support me while I fix it myself”. (Taking ownership and accepting the problem defeats the problem in its first place and solutions come handy).
On the other hand, when I want to help someone( spouse, family or friend) out I should safely say ” look, you’re blaming others for your own problems;deal with it yourself”
Giving each other space and a chance to solve their own problems demonstrates love too. After all you are responsible for your own problems. And even if you are not ( like a theft or natural disaster or accident) you can still make a choice of accepting and striving to make it better or sulk and live in self pity.
It’s always either this or that.
It’s time you take charge of your own happiness.
Happiness and sunshine