6 lessons after shit happens.

Shit happens!

And it usually happens when we least expect it. I’ve had a lot of shit happen to me but I’m not gonna go through much detail about them.

Look, I’m not here to take sympathy cards. I am here to share some lessons I’ve learned to stay on top, not just cope, but even come out better!

  1. It’s not Permanent
    When shit happens it’s all good to feel like crap at first, it’s a normal reaction. Just remember, being defeated is a temporary condition, giving up is what makes it permanent. The good news is nothing lasts forever and unfortunately that is also the bad news. It’s a cycle and has to turn with its ups and downs. Its  like the stock market, invest when the price drops and book profits when the price rise. Similarly learn from your mistakes when life throws lemons and enjoy the lemonade when peace resumes.
  2. Perspective is Priceless.
    It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you frame it. Your outlook is a direct reflection of how you see yourself. Whether you treat yourself as a piece of shit or decided to step away and move forward is a matter of choice. Self blame , self pity…. yeah for a few seconds, cry it out if that helps but raise yourself from the dungeon asap. Stop being harsh on yourself.
  3. Creativity is a Must
    When shit happens, it breaks your day to day routine. Instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, focus on what you “can do” rather than what you can’t. Getting into the solution mode changes focus and thus changes perspective. I recently missed filing for my visa application,why? not because my papers were not in order or I got late for the appointment, but because I left my passport at home. Yes passport! SHIT.  I went through both point 1 and 2 and then settled at rescheduling the appointment. And viola now I have new dates at hand. I took this entire episode as a learning lesson and yes now i am writing and sharing what I learned too. Creativity  gives new hopes.
  4. Be Relentless
    “I don’t know how” translates to “I don’t want it bad enough.” It is a poor excuse. That tells me you want more but you’re way too comfortable to do anything about it. It reminds me of the story of “The Fox and the Grapes“,where the fox called the grapes sour only because he could not reach them. To admit, I did the same, I cancelled my plan to travel to USA at some point in time,but soon realized how stupid I was to do it. To travel or not to travel is the decision that can wait, visa needs to be sorted first. And now I am taking one day at a time.
  5. Stop over Reacting
    All I want to say is that don’t think too much. Thoughts that wire together fire together. One thought leads to two and then to few and later to many often over complicating a simple situation.When brain cells communicate frequently, the connection between them strengthens. Messages that travel the same pathway in the brain over & over begin to transmit faster & faster. With enough repetition, they become automatic. The more these negative thoughts loop, the stronger the neural pathways become, and the more difficult it becomes to stop them!
  6. Stay in company of people who matter
    The last thing I want to hear when shit happens is how crappy the situation is. I need solutions, not sympathy. I need people to kick my ass and tell me “Hey, it’s all good, don’t worry about it.” When I told my husband about this, he was surprisingly calm and said “Shit happens, but don’t worry we will take care of it”. And my sister said “To err is human and you are improving”. Though these words did not change the situation for me, but definitely gave me support.

See, shit happens and and will happen again, only in a different form (ie when you have learned from your mistake). Taking one day at a time and switching on the sunshine every time helps to sail through.  The sooner you enter the fire fighting mode the saner you will be.

What do you think? What do you do when shit happens? Let me know by commenting below.

Happiness and sunshine🌼

Nidhi

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30 Comments Add yours

  1. Super post, I enjoyed it a lot 😊🙏🏻

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    1. Glad to hear this, I love your blog name , the well-being blogger 🌼👍

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  2. Carolyn Page says:

    Love all of this; especially the opening line! A sense of humour is one of our greatest tools.. 🙂

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    1. Life sucks without humour.
      Glad you loved the post 🙂

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  3. Ha ha I loved the image you’ve inserted. And I love the post

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  4. Rajat Kedia says:

    Nidhi, I am extremely proud of the fact that you took it in your stride and moved on. But more importantly, the article was very interesting and in fact, I built up a good perspective as well. Thank you very much and keep writing

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    1. All I can say is thank you then , thank you now ans thank you forever ❤️

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  5. Every youngster should read it – you nailed it with humor 😊❤️

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    1. Hahaha thanks Shantanu . What is life without humour 😊?

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      1. Absolutely 🌸😊

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    2. In fact I learned this from my son. They had a bake sale once in school and they also planned to serve Pani puri . Now the boy I. Charge of getting the pani forgot, so
      Instead of cribbing these kids served dry puri’s which was an instant hit .

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      1. Wow. Such a beautiful anecdote

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      2. Cannot agree more 🙂

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  6. Ash says:

    This is great advice! I love how you said not to overreact. This is something I do when things go wrong so I’m definitely going to pay attention to how I respond to things next time something happens 🌷

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    1. Great, I am so happy to heat this from you Ash! All the best

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      1. Ash says:

        Aww thank you so much! I hope you are having a great weekend ❤

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  7. Humanity Lives On says:

    What an insightful post, really widened my perspective and learned a thing or two here, thank you so much for sharing this with me! – Cezane

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    1. So thankful to you for letting me know . Glad you found it insightful 🌼

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  8. arv! says:

    It’s only from the adverse situations that we all learn and grow. Great share, Nidhi

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    1. Thanks Arv ! All these adversities bring out the best in us:)

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      1. arv! says:

        Absolutely👍

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  9. Really enjoyed this post, your blog is great!

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    1. Thank you so much dear blogger friend 🙂

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  10. zadi says:

    Absolutely genius, I love the saying, shit happens, flush it and move on.

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    1. Me too, simply love it 🙂

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    2. Good write-up. Shit does happen, but don’t let it stick because it stinks.

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      1. Thank you Eden. Making lemonade of lemons that life throws 🙂

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